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  • Writer's pictureKristen Brock

Redefining Perfect: Finding Joy in Life’s Reality

Lately I’ve had a tendency (more than usual) to strive to be a perfect human in my every day life. My career, relationship, friendships… everything. Specifically when things are going really well for me - which seems strange, doesn’t it? In the midst of this chapter of my life, full of triumphs and exciting leaps forward (and of course some struggles), an unexpected pattern emerges. This 'upgrade chapter,' as I've come to call it, seems like the opportune moment to pause and take it all in, yet instead, the urge to create an even better version of myself intensifies.

All of a sudden I feel a pressure to make myself the most perfect version of me to ever exist, making something that should be positive a negative instead.

But perfection is not what I should be striving for…

Perfection is hypothetical.

Perfection is a state of mind.

Perfection is not a reality.

It’s so easy for people to understand the concept of “perfection is impossible,” because it is. We all know that… but if that’s true, then why do we kill ourselves so much over situations that don’t go as flawless as we had imagined? Think of it this way: nothing about being alive is perfect. Human beings aren’t perfect. Situations aren’t perfect. The universe is simply not perfect. It’s okay to strive for this lifestyle, but accept when you’ve done amazing work, perfect or not, and make the best out of it. Here are some thing I am constantly reminding myself of recently:

  1. Perfectionism is a hidden form of self-sabotage. When we're striving for perfection, we can become so focused on avoiding mistakes that we forget to take risks and try new things. By owning our imperfections, we can learn to embrace failure as a natural part of the learning process, and to see mistakes as opportunities for growth and improvement.

  2. Practice self-compassion. Being kind to ourselves is the first step we can take in accepting our flaws and imperfections.

  3. Imperfection is a part of who we are, and it's time to embrace it. For too long, we've been taught that perfection is the ultimate goal, and that anything less than perfection is a failure. But the truth is, perfection is a myth, and it's a myth that's holding us back from being our true selves.

Let me share an example: let's say you've always dreamed of being an actor, but you've been too afraid to take the leap and pursue your passion because you're afraid of not being good enough. You've convinced yourself that you need to have a perfect audition, that you need to have a perfect body, that you need to have a perfect headshot and/or an untouchable resume.

But the truth is, the acting industry is full of imperfect actors who are making a living and making a name for themselves through their vulnerability and differences.

They've learned to embrace their imperfections and to see them as a natural part of the creative process. By doing so, they've been able to tap into their true selves, bring authenticity to their performances and discover a side of themselves that is relatable - therefore, allowing them to be incredibly marketable and inspiring to others. In the same way, you can learn to embrace your own imperfections and to see them as a natural part of who you are.

  • You can start by acknowledging your flaws and accepting them, rather than trying to hide or deny them.

  • You can start by taking small steps towards pursuing your passion, even if it means making mistakes or trying new things.

  • You can start by surrounding yourself with people who accept and encourage you, rather than trying to fit into a mold or conform to societal expectations.

By embracing your imperfections, you can start living a more authentic, wholehearted life, and you can start creating performances that are truly YOU. Chasing perfection isn't our true pursuit; it's an elusive concept, a mental construct detached from reality.

There is beauty that comes from imperfection. There is charm in flaw and blemishes. Perfection is a myth, and it's one that can hold us back from living our best lives.

Love you, babes xo


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